{"id":9004111222779714,"date":"2020-10-09T08:00:42","date_gmt":"2020-10-09T14:00:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/manu004.supserv.cozmoslabs.com\/?p=9004111222779714"},"modified":"2020-10-09T11:02:57","modified_gmt":"2020-10-09T17:02:57","slug":"pregnancy-infant-loss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/manu004.supserv.cozmoslabs.com\/fr\/2020\/10\/09\/pregnancy-infant-loss\/","title":{"rendered":"Pregnancy & Infant Loss"},"content":{"rendered":"

PREGNANCY & INFANT LOSS<\/h3>\n<\/div>
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October 13, 2020<\/strong><\/div>\n<\/header>\n
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by Dr. Laura Lewis<\/p>\n

Often in pregnancy care work, we speak of the specific loss and pain of abortion, yet the trauma involved in miscarriage or stillbirth can be equally profound.<\/p>\n

Recently an individual reached out to us looking for support as she navigated her miscarriage loss. Her request reminded me of the many aspects of grief involved in a pregnancy loss or death of an infant.<\/p>\n

As a physician, my approach to miscarriage loss was scientific, hopefully with a few appropriate empathetic words. However, as I have learned more about\u00a0all\u00a0<\/em>pregnancy loss, I realize I likely said words that were not helpful or conveyed insensitivity.<\/p>\n

Often the two lines appearing on a positive pregnancy test begin dreams of a life with a new little one. These first connections are not just emotional. Science supports that there is early contact between mother and baby — \u00a0the developing embryo sends hormonal messages to the mother’s brain to prepare a nurturing environment for the months ahead.<\/p>\n

When a woman or couple experience a miscarriage, regardless of the stage of pregnancy, the experience of loss can be very real and devastating, even though that loss may be hidden.<\/p>\n

Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day\u00a0is October 15th<\/sup>, <\/strong>a space to acknowledge this unspoken grief or sorrow of a lost life.<\/p>\n

Many of us fear saying the wrong thing, and as a result, we remain silent. No one wants to cause more pain due to poorly chosen words.\u00a0But the reality is we don’t have to know what to say \u2013 we need to know how to listen.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

“By listening with compassion<\/em><\/strong>, you take cues from a person about where they are at and what they want to talk about.<\/p>\n

\u00a0By asking sensitive questions<\/em><\/strong>, you are inviting them to talk about their feelings, and not make assumptions.<\/p>\n

\u00a0By accepting and acknowledging their feelings<\/em><\/strong>, you are letting them know it’s okay for them to feel the way they do.”<\/p>\n

Here are some suggestions of\u00a0simple, heartfelt words\u00a0you can say:<\/p>\n